tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7794836422803225879.post8916655295880552563..comments2023-08-26T20:08:25.993+08:00Comments on Opinionation: Parenting Books Are Mostly BogusGracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09570841904308934998noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7794836422803225879.post-90331137119169880392012-08-26T19:08:30.921+08:002012-08-26T19:08:30.921+08:00I like some things about attachment parenting (bab...I like some things about attachment parenting (babywearing, for instance, because it's so much easier) and dislike others (co-sleeping, for instance). The main problem about it for me is that it's only appropriate for very small children, yet often people fail to change their parenting approach as the children get bigger. <br /><br />In traditional societies (the supposed inspiration for AP), they follow a very AP style with babies. But once children become toddlers they are quickly weaned and expected to spend almost all of their waking hours in the company of other children, learning all skills from them, to the point that they spend almost no time in the company of their parents. If a mother tries to keep her child at home (instead of semi-kicking him out), she will be mocked by the rest of the village. I don't know about this approach in a modern American context, but it's certainly not AP as usually described.Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09570841904308934998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7794836422803225879.post-53817716264375505092012-08-26T18:59:22.180+08:002012-08-26T18:59:22.180+08:00I haven't read Baby Wise, but don't plan t...I haven't read Baby Wise, but don't plan to as it's not really suitable for our family (since it's written from an evangelical perspective and we're both atheists). I'm glad you found it useful though!<br /><br />Spending a little time with babies who aren't yours is great (even if it's nothing like actually being a parent). There was a program I read about a while ago where young babies were brought into the school system once a month (with a parent of course) to help teach the elementary schoolkids about emotional intelligence (in particular, how to identify emotions and develop empathy). It apparently was really successful. It sounded like a beautiful idea and I would love to have R participate in something like that, as I do think everyone (even young children) has a natural empathy with babies.Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09570841904308934998noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7794836422803225879.post-46048496158907810952012-08-26T13:27:15.997+08:002012-08-26T13:27:15.997+08:00@Amy - Dr. William (Bill) Sears' wife is Marth...@Amy - Dr. William (Bill) Sears' wife is Martha Sears, RN. She has co-written his most popular books with him, if you want to read what she has to say.<br /><br />Their website:<br />http://www.askdrsears.com/content/about-us<br /><br />Books by Martha Sears, RN on Amazon:<br />http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=martha+sears<br /><br />Keshanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7794836422803225879.post-69302653891314072772012-08-25T10:19:17.302+08:002012-08-25T10:19:17.302+08:00I had to laugh about the Dr. Sears stuff- so true....I had to laugh about the Dr. Sears stuff- so true. I am not a fan of attachment parenting myself, and you make a good point about him himself not really following it. It would be much more interesting to see his wife's perspective!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01832580220695708322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7794836422803225879.post-60754912024854128972012-08-24T22:53:52.874+08:002012-08-24T22:53:52.874+08:00The one parenting book we found extremely helpful ...The one parenting book we found extremely helpful was Baby Wise. We've used those methods with both of our children and we've had a great success. I'm going to order Toddler Wise as well. I also thought the methods were great because a woman (Baby Wise Mom) has a HUGE library of posts about her use of the methods with her own family.<br /><br />But I like this post because I never thought of it this way but you're right. A lot of these authors have such hectic jobs that they aren't full time parents at all.<br /><br />I do think that comment about heaven on Earth is creepy. But being in a similiar field as this author, I can relate that perhaps this 30 minutes was a wonderful break from the stress of his job and so when he does activities like this, they do a lot for his mental health.Meg @ Moments Like Thishttp://www.momentsbymegg.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com