I'm trying to feed R better (and myself, because she's getting old enough to notice I am eating gummies for dinner).
Success has been kind of mixed. B was willing to go along with it (like with giving up meat), so I went food shopping. Based on some of the comments from the original post, I bought many packets of frozen vegetables (in particular spinach, one of my favorite foods). I also bought quinoa, (canned) beans, (canned) tomatoes, cottage cheese, mushrooms, and eggs. And I've been making an effort to buy fresh fruit more often (troublesome because it only lasts a few days in this climate). I still haven't had a chance to buy a rice cooker, but that's next on the agenda.
So far we've had many different healthy meals. B made them, so they were real dishes with many kinds of spices and ingredients. They included garbanzos and quinoa with carrots and one was quinoa, sweet potato and spinach. We also ate spinach and egg omelettes, pasta with fresh tomato sauce, mushroom and black beans with wraps, mushroom and goat cheese sandwiches, Asian-style noodles and vegetables, etc. R ate most of this (though she refused to eat quinoa the first two times, and the third ate it, but with a look of reproach when it was served, and only after covering the whole thing in parmesan cheese. Not a fan, apparently).
Basically, I went shopping and then talked my husband into cooking for me. So we've been eating more healthfully, but the basic problem (of me being incompetent to feed my child) has not been addressed.
B did teach me how to make easy Asian-style stir fry (so maybe I will make it next week). And I made R eggs for breakfast twice! (This is really big, I assure you). I've been trying to follow Jessica's advice to include a grain, protein, veggie and dairy for each meal (though for breakfast I count fruit as a veggie: it seems too sad to give R spinach first thing in the morning).
I don't really have good motivation to make dinner (since B is so much better at it). But maybe I can try to make lunch (like, a real lunch rather than from a can) once a week? and then work up?
Someone recommended the Daily Garnish as a possible recipe source, and it seems very helpful. I think I will try the suggested bean salad on Friday (tomorrow is too busy). Let's see how it goes!