|R in the tub as a small baby: so innocent?|
We've been taking baths with little R since she was very young (a few weeks old). At first it was just easier to bathe a slick, squiggly and surprisingly fragile baby when we were in the water as well; later it became a fun bonding activity. She has only taken a bath by herself (as in, no adults were in the tub with her) a few times.
R takes a bath almost every day: it's part of the night time routine. So by this point she's taken hundreds of baths with us. Up to a few weeks ago, she had only pooped in the tub once (when she was quite ill with diarrhea), and was seemingly pretty upset by it. It obviously was an accident and a complete surprise to her.
However, in the last two weeks she's pooped in the tub three times. This is so incredibly gross as the bathing parent (because the poop floats freely in the water, coating you, R, her bath toys and everything else in its nasty germs). It's also a huge hassle, because then everything has to be sterilized (and R and the adult have to be cleaned all over again in the shower, as R protests: she doesn't like the shower).
Over the last couple months, she's become a lot more aware of her bowel movements, and seems to have some control over them. She even usually gets into position (squatting, in an appropriately secure location) before producing. When we were in Penang, she only pooped once (very unusual for her) and as soon as we got home, she pooped a very large amount (saving it for the safety of home, which I think is common even among adults).
So the fact that she is now regularly pooping in the tub seems suspicious. The first time I was surprised but figured it was just an accident; now, though, I feel like she's doing it on purpose for some reason.
The question is, why??? And what to do about it? She understands a lot of what we say, but I am not confident that there's any way to explain to her why/how this new habit is a bad idea. Also, what if it's not purposeful? Then I will just give her a complex. Does anyone have suggestions/experience with this?